Thoughts on Matt Trailer Loading

After reading some other threads, I think my trailering issues with Matt might be all my fault as well. I mean, I come blowing in from work at high speed, load the tack, boss around the child to get her boots and get in the car, hurriedly hook up the trailer and, by then, am running short of time and then its lets get Matty in ASAP. Okay, GET IN!!!! Matty!!! GET IN NOW!! For Matt, this comes after weeks of bucolic days of chomping around the pasture and occasionally being groomed and trail ridden. He's probably half asleep and then rudely awakened by all this activity. I'm going to try to act more casually next time and see if it helps. I mean, he knows HOW to get into the trailer (he's 22 years old). He just balks.